Have you ever feel down for no reasons?
Most time in our lives, we are filled with schedules, people and busyness around us but there are sometimes intervals between in which all of a sudden we feel “empty”, there seems to be no security about anything in life. And it just came out from nowhere…
Is that weird or negative?
Nothing in this world is totally positive or negative. Every event is neutral, it’s how we see, perceive and act on it that determine it’s polarity.
The mind is the forerunner of all things.
Hence, it really depends on how you see it. To me, I believe it is always natural to have this sort of feeling from time to time, for there is too much uncertainty in life. Only death is certain. Insecurity is inevitable.
We cannot deny nor escape from the existence of ephemerality and suffering in this world, but that does not mean we are seeing the world in a negative lens. By being realistically aware of the nature of life, we can find ways to live a happier one.
Whenever I feel down for no reason, I find ways to uplift myself. But sometimes we don’t need to, we can just be…
Aware of The Sensation.
A way of dealing with insecurity is not by getting rid of it, but making friends with it. Merely being aware of the feelings or emotions that arise from the “event”- your body sensation, emotions and thoughts. By seeing what is happening within you, sometimes, it just disappeared out of no where…just as how it came from nowhere…Reminds me of the quantum experiment that proves that our observations mysteriously change the outcome of the experiment. Mind-blowing reality.
Count My Blessings.
Another great way of injecting a dose of positivity: Gratitude. In life, there’s always something to be grateful for, the money in our pocket, the kindness of people around us and maybe the very fact that we are still breathing with vitality.
Sleep to Re-energize.
(Voted easiest and laziest way by me), Sometimes, I do choose to go to sleep wishing that I will wake up with a more positive mind to re-boot my day. And many times they do work! We could just be too tired and after some rest, our body and mind will be refreshed!
Work On A Project
Working on a project, blog or something….better if it’s something profitable 😛 but most importantly something that we’re passionate about tunes us into a state of “flow”. And “flow’ makes you feel good. Here I’ll cite some of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s quotes from Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience:
“To overcome the anxieties and depressions of contemporary life, individuals must become independent of the social environment to the degree that they no longer respond exclusively in terms of its rewards and punishments. To achieve such autonomy, a person has to learn to provide rewards to herself. She has to develop the ability to find enjoyment and purpose regardless of external circumstances.”
Csíkszentmihályi outlines his theory that people are happiest when they are in a state of flow— a state of concentration or complete absorption with the activity at hand and the situation. It is a state in which people are so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter.
If you’re wondering how, here’s How To Start An Interesting Project by Potential Matrix teammates but of course, if you have no project on hand…
“Right” Meditation is The Ultimate Tool
I was lucky to be introduced to meditation at an early age. It relaxes me and grounds me down to the present moment wherever and whatever state I am. Just as food sustains our body, meditation or mental cultivation sustains our mind. There is nothing taboo or religious about meditation although it is deeply-rooted in Buddhism and Hinduism. Anyone can cultivate mindfulness and lead a more peaceful life. There’s usually two types of meditation that I practice:
a) Mindfulness of breathing: I guess this is the most basic meditation of all. Sitting in a relax and comfortable position and being gently aware of the flowing sensation of our breathe at the tip of our nose.
One of the best guides to meditation I would recommend is by Ajahn Brahm: The Basic Method of Meditation or if you’re in Malaysia, there’s a really nice retreat coming up with him in Genting Highland! Registration link here.
b) Vipassana: known as insight meditation is very famous in the west and had been attended by many notable people including Brian Johnson, author of Philosopher’s notes. You may check out this website if you’re interested.
Not sure if meditation will work for you but it has been very much a useful methodology to me since high school. Anyways, last of all…
A friend in need is a friend indeed.
Once in a while, I do call up close buddies, friends or family members to chill and relax. This scenario is particularly fruitful for extroverts as they usually gain energies and joy from camaraderie. If you can’t find anyone, “okay-lah”, bug me, maybe we can FB chat, skype or something.
Ending this post with this music video I enjoy a lot below…
Jin. or Young.
“Here I am – this is me.There’s no where else on earth I’d rather be…” Bryan Adams”